Navy Officer (Former)

Navy Officer (Former)


New York, NY

Male, 28

I went to Yale NROTC and received a commission as a Navy SWO (ship officer). I didn't renew my service after the required years. I wanted to move on to make a civilian life for myself but not a day goes by that I don't miss the Navy.

My first sea assignment was a DDG (destroyer) on which I was a division officer overseeing more than 20 sailors. Then for shore duty I was an instructor at SWOS. For my final year I returned to a new ship as a division officer.

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Last Answer on October 13, 2014

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What's the most dangerous situation you were ever personally in?

Asked by David about 10 years ago

As a Navy officer onboard a ship, danger came in the form of accidents, not attack.

There have been a few times when my adrenaline has gone up considerably, though.

Here's a list I came up with:

-Helped put out a fire in the engine room.

-Our ship was on a collision course with a ship that did not respond to radio messages. The Commanding Officer likely saved our lives by ordering the ship to turn off course as quickly as possible (called evasive action) instead of demanding the ship to follow our orders.

-Recreational motorboat came suspiciously close to our ship near Spain. They came closer than the required distance. We did not engage the boat, but it was pretty scary. (see "USS Cole attacks for info on why this was so dangerous).

These are all I could think of. Sailors and officers on aircraft carriers have the unique danger of the flight deck. It's considered one of the most dangerous workplaces.

Best wishes.

Did you see (or were you subjected to) any crazy hazing stuff?

Asked by Conway.T about 10 years ago

Hey there! During my service I never saw crazy hazing customs. There were some traditions that were done when someone achieved some kind of qualification, but serious hazing would not be allowed. (Except of course for any offiicial Navy required tests)

So you went to Yale NROTC. Did you also apply to the Naval Academy?

Asked by Real deal about 10 years ago

When I began the college application process I did considered USNA. I did not apply though.

This was for two reasons:

1) I wanted to experience the traditional college experience. Only NROTC could do that, not USNA.

2) I knew that I was going to have another career after the Navy. Yale had many more majors available. USNA has good majors but there weren't as many as Yale.

Both programs are great. It's basically a matter of preference.

What kind of attitude towards Americans did you experience in foreign countries? Was there any additional animosity given that you're part of the "big, bad" US military "policing the world"?

Asked by TonyaFrisco about 10 years ago

Usually we had decent experiences with foreigners. There were a few times when people refused to serve us for political reasons and the sort.

We also had some pretty cool experiences too. It's especially great when a foreign kid who could've been brought up to hate America shows an interest in you. I love answering kids questions.

Have a great day.

I've seen a lot of interviews with guys who led teams in Iraq/Afgh. who describe their servicemen as super-smart / from the best schools, which is totally at odds with the stereotypical high-school dropout enlistee. Which is closer to the truth?

Asked by Terry123 about 10 years ago

This is truly a great question. I'm glad you asked this. As you might know, there are officers and enlisted in the Navy. Most officers have at least 4-year college degrees. I'd guess that about 10-20% of enlisted has college degrees. Going back as recently as maybe 30 years ago, many servicemen could be high school dropouts. Today, I'd say 99% have high school diplomas at least.

For the most part, I've worked with some very smart individuals. Most of them did not yet have a college degree. But still, they were very dedicated and intelligent. I really hope that they went on to get a degree, because they were very capable.

So in short: Servicemen are definitely not the stereotypical high-school dropouts. It's basically 1 in 100 to find someone without a high school diploma in the military. A lot of them are very smart. Although they didn't all have fancy college degrees, they probably didn't because they chose to join the military ASAP.

Interesting fact: The military is actually more educated than the rest of America. About 85% of officers have 4-year college degrees, compared to 31% of all Americans. About 99% of enlisted (non-officers) have HS diplomas, compared to 88% of all Americans.

Have any crazy fleet week stories? (And just how wild do women go for Navy guys in their white outfits strutting about the city?)

Asked by kenzee about 10 years ago

I have never been to Fleet Week as someone in the Navy. I've heard rumors, but I really have no idea what it's like. Sorry!

Why do you think so many people (incl you, apparently) miss the military after they get out. Granted I've never served myself, but I can't imagine that I wouldn't long for some stability after years of risking life and limb.

Asked by 2BILLS about 10 years ago


You ask a great question. It's important for me to put it out there that I haven't really risked "life and limb" during my service. Many have, but not me. One major misconseption about the military is that everyone ends up fighting. Especially in this day and age, that's not the case. Sure, no branch is completely safe. Accidents happen. But overall, I'd say "stability" can be found in the military much more than in the civilian world. This is one issue that sadly affects thousands of vets. Members of the military follow strict rules and schedules. They have some freetime now and then, but their day is very organized depending on how you look at it. When people become civilians again, they are in a society that is the opposite. Some people just can't adjust.

For me, this wasn't much of a problem. My thing was that the excitement and rewarding experiences that I've been through will never happen again. As an officer, I've had the privilage to lead scores of men. Ranging in age from 18 to 40+, it was kind of strange for their leader to be a 22-27 year old. I had the opportunity to be both a student, and a teacher. I was almost always the most educated person in my division, but not even close to the most experienced.

So for me, it was hard to let that go. But I know I can move on. Some (especially those with longer times in service) have a much harder time adapting to a new society.

I hope this answered your question.