Love is a many-splendored thing, and I should know: as a Flirting, Dating, and Relationship Coach, I enhance the social lives of singles & the relationships of couples. I previously served as Match.com’s Director of Flirting, and I’ve appeared on such shows as The Today Show and Bill O’Reilly. I recently released The Flirting Bible and I’ve also been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Cosmopolitan. Ask me anything!
How exciting to have a huge crush! I know it is downright scary to take the plunge and ask her out. So what's a great guy like you supposed to do? You could do nothing and kick yourself for being too chicken to ask her out, or you could take a deep breath and ask her out. It would be best if you could ask her out in private (that might be hard). Anyway, you could say to her, "Your boyfriend is a really lucky guy", and when she says she doesn't have one, you could say,"Then today is my lucky day. How about going out for a drink later?" Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Let's imagine the worst: she says no. Okay, you feel a little awkward for a day or so. Not the end of the world. I know your pride is hurt, but if she says no she is actually doing you a favor by not wasting your time. But it could be your lucky day and she will say yes. Keep me posted...... promise?
How great is that? He is giving you the green light to make a move. So Misty, stand up tall, walk over, smile, look into his baby blues or big brown eyes, extend your hand and introduce yourself. The rest will be history!
As the Director of Flirting I had a column called "Frankly Fran", very similar to jobstr.com. I was asked questions as to how to survive online dating, flirting tips, how to start a conversation, what are the best places to meet, how do you know when someone likes you, how to go on after a breakup, are office romances okay, when is it okay to have sex, etc, etc. I also was a spokesperson for Match and was interviewed on radio, TV, newspapers and magazines. It was fabulous! Loved it.
Sending a drink to a woman across the bar is a smart way to get her attention. It could get expensive, though, so first engage in some eye contact and see if she looks your way. How about sending a note along with the drink so she will really be wowed? Go for it.
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Hairstylist and Makeup Artist
Nurse Practitioner
60% female and 40% male
It has not come up with any of my married woman clients. Having a cheating spouse has been completely devastating and heartbreaking for my divorced woman clients. My advice to a woman who is considering an affair would be to either work on the marriage or pursue a divorce. Having an affair does not make the troubled relationship better and always causes pain for the spouse that is being cheated on.
The best place to meet guys is ... everywhere! Be open, chatty, and always look wherever you are. Let everyone know that you are in the dating market. That means everyone! Your friends, family, neighbors, hairstylist, mechanic, letter carrier, dentist, accountant etc etc. You can even be a bit outrageous and say that you're offering a cruise to whomever introduces you to the love of your life! Here's a short list of where to meet a quality guy: high school and college reunions, volunteering, classes, the gym, online dating services, singles events, jury duty, and houses of worship.
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