Flirting/Relationship Coach

If I go on a date using match.com okcupid or whatever, and the guy shows up and I know IMMEDIATELY that it's not a match, what's the most polite way for me to get out of it quickly?

Asked by Hannah about 12 years ago

First put yourself in his shoes. What would you want if the tables were turned? If you are meeting for coffee you could drink it quickly, chat for a few minutes, and very politely say, "I don't think we're a match, thanks for the coffee." I would suggest that you plan your first meetings for something brief like coffee or a drink. So if he is absolutely not for you, your exit could be really fast! But sometimes a diamond in the rough can be a real gem!

What do you think is the most common misconception for men with regard to how best to approach women?

Asked by AintNoCasanova about 12 years ago

Lots of guys think that the best approach is a heavy come on! Women are so turned off by empty compliments or lines that make them speechless or uncomfortable. Less is better than more. Chivalry is not dead, try it you will earn some really big points.

I'm not the best/wittiest writer in the world, so how do I stand out when writing to girls I'm interested in on dating websites?

Asked by swingandamiss about 12 years ago

The most important thing to do is to comment about what the girl wrote in her profile. When you do that, she knows that you really have paid attention to her. Your replies should be complimentary, not too long, and let her know that you would really like to meet. I'm not a big fan of a gazillion emails and hours of texting or talking before you actually meet.

What would you say brought you to deciding on the career path you chose, and what tips could you give to someone who is totally clueless as to how to make her interests in people, relationships and society into anything profitable?

Asked by curiouswannabesuccess almost 12 years ago

Hi Clueless:

My story is a combination of my professional background as a licensed clinical social worker and lots of experience in the training field.   I strated doing workshops for singles and it "morphed" into my career as a Flirting, Dating, and Relationship Coach.
 Some of the ways to see if their is an interest inwhat you have to offer is to start  a blog, write articles, or teach a workshop.   It is a great  way to test the waters.
 Also do a google search of all sorts of experts and see if something resonates for you.  Hope this helps.  Feel free to ask a follow up question if you need anything else.

Follow your passion and take  steps to reach your goal.  Wishing you much success in 2014!

She's married, I am separated now. After a 4 year relationship she left me as it did not progress in wait for my divorce, delayed for tough reasons. We still talk, but she wants us friends. She's bored with hubby. I love and need her. I need help!

Asked by Mo about 10 years ago

Hi Mo:

As much as you want to be with  her, she is married and you are not divorced.That is the  harsh reality.  If and when she gets divorced and you get divorced the two of you can try again.  For now, let her know that dating married women is not  what you want.  You can't turn the clock back, but it appears that she put her time in waiting for you and you did not get divorced.   "If you are bored with your spouse you try to fix it, if that does not work you  end the relationship."  I think it is time to move forward with your own life.  Wishing you the best.  Fran

i like this guy and every time i see him he smiles and says heyy should i tell him i like him?

Asked by emily over 10 years ago

Hi Emily:

It sounds like this guy is waiting for you to make the next move.  Telling him that you like him as the icebreaker could be a deal breaker.   Although I love being direct  this might cause him to get tongue tied.  So, give these   a try:

• Give him a compliment (Tell him what a great smile he has)
• Ask him if he wants to grab a cup of coffee or go for a drink
• Start a converstaion with him and  if it  feels right tell him how you have been wanting to talk to him for the longest time

If some annoying boys were teasing me in front of other people, will that make me look back? The girls watching told the boys that it was gross what they were saying (in general not just to me.) I didn't say anything back. Did I look bad?

Asked by 123 about 10 years ago

Sometimes it is difficult to tell someone that  you  they can not talk to you in a way that is disrespectful.   If it happens again, either walk away or let the boys know that you will not be spoken to in that way.  It is so important to let others know that you have self confidence and are not afraid  to show it!