Love is a many-splendored thing, and I should know: as a Flirting, Dating, and Relationship Coach, I enhance the social lives of singles & the relationships of couples. I previously served as Match.com’s Director of Flirting, and I’ve appeared on such shows as The Today Show and Bill O’Reilly. I recently released The Flirting Bible and I’ve also been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Cosmopolitan. Ask me anything!
Here's my take on it! Since I don't know what you said on Facebook I am at a bit of a disadvantage since he blocked you. With that aside here's my advice. Nothing ventured nothing gained and if this is something that you really, really want to pursue here are a bunch of ideas ! Go for it! 1. Have your friend arrange an after work meet up somewhere with the 3 of you. (better yet have your colleague bring someone too) 2. Ask your colleague to ask him if he would like to be fixed up with you. 3. Figure out a way to connect with him at the gym. How perfect that you get to see him on a regular basis. 4. Since your colleague is his friend ask him or her for ideas. I am available for a telephone consultation if you would like. check out my webite at frangreene.com
Hi Leila - so glad you asked this question! Fear of rejection is the # 1 reason that both men and women don't flirt! Please reserve rejection only for someone who has touched your heart. How about reframing the "rejection" you are feeling when your flirting partner wants no part of you? Here's what I want you to do: symbolically (in your head, that is) shake his hand and say, "Thanks so much for only wasting ten minutes of my time and not 10 days, 10 months or 10 years!" Fear of rejection only prevents you from flirting. For starters, make eye contact, smile and then say hello! Happy flirting!
What is most important is to be comfortable and feel good about your decision. It sounds to me that in your gut you feel it is better to move on. I agree that pushing is never a good thing but sometimes a gentle nudge is all that is needed. Wishing you a love filled spring.
I am a licensed clinical social worker and was asked to teach a Flirting Course at the Learning Annex in NYC. My career as a Flirting, Dating, and Relationship Coach took off from there. Flirting is in my blood and helping singles find love and couples have the best relationships is my passion! I offer workshops on all topics related to love, am an online dating consultant, and have a national private practice working with people who have never been married, divorced, and widowed. Although no credentials are required, having my masters in social work has given me credibility. It is so great to do what you love and love what you do! Thanks for asking.
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I am happy to say that several of my clients have met their spouse with my help.. It makes the work I do so meaningful when a client finds the love of their life. I suspect that there have been others that have found love but since they no longer need me I will never know. Equally as important, many of my clients and participants in my workshops have taken control of their social life, have removed roadblocks, gained confidence and are no longer stuck in a dating drought.
Just think of all of the missed opportunities if you stick to the sideline! It's time to remove your flirting roadblocks and just do it. It's not about crafting the best opening line. Next time you're in a bar try the following: You see a woman that catches your eye. Walk over towards her and give her a compliment. The best compliments are honest and genuine with the element of surprise. For example, "I couldn't help but notice how patient you were with the bartender" or "You have such a great sense of style", "Your outfit is so classy", etc. I think you get my drift. Just have fun!
I am a licensed clinical social worker (therapist) as well as a Flirting, Dating and Relationship Coach. What sometimes happens is that a client comes in for coaching or online dating advice and the dating stuff goes on hold so other issues can take priority. Some of my clients have seen a psychiatrist and are being treated with medication.
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