New York, NY

Male, 33

I was a bouncer at one of the biggest sh-thole bars on the Upper East Side of Manhattan from 2005-2007. Ask me anything.

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Last Answer on July 30, 2013

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Is there any kind of requirement to have something with hair

Asked by steve lo over 11 years ago

First off, your question makes no sense. I'm assuming you're asking about some sort of requirement about the length of your hair? If so, there is no requirement - I worked with a couple of guys who had dreadlocks. The down side of having long hair is it makes it easier for someone to grab.

what is a bouncer's average size in height, weight and all ways in body size to costumers?

Asked by Marcos Regalado about 11 years ago


What do bouncers look for when checking an ID or drivers license?

Asked by Ava about 11 years ago

Stop asking me these qustions. I'm not going to help you get into a bar with a fake ID. There is an entire internet out there that I'm sure has tons of info about this. Stop asking me.

Did you get greased at the door a lot? Does management frown upon that or do they look the other way?

Asked by tada over 12 years ago

If I knew I had to let in underaged kids I would sometimes make them pay me to get in. But for the most part I didn't let people 'grease' me. If you do that, then they've got something on you, they'll try to use that against you: "Hey, I gave you $50, why are you throwing me out?"; "Hey, you're my friend, this guy is giving me a hard time, why don't you throw him out?" You have to be 100% locked up (especially for someone my size). People are constantly trying to play power games with you -- taking money from them gives them an advantage.

Can a bouncer strike you in the face even when they were not physically touched, assaulted ,or threatened? How much force is excessive force in your opinion?

Asked by about 11 years ago

Striking someone in the face after they have not been physically touched, assaulted or threatened is excessive force in my optinion. That being said, I have never seen a bouncer do anything like this.

I have seen a lot of drunk idiots lie about what happened to try to duck responsibility for their actions.

Ever hook up with any of your customers, OR one of the bartenders at your bar?

Asked by blizzzzard over 12 years ago

All of the above. You can throw cocktail waitress on that list too. Never dated anyone, though. If you were into me because I was a bouncer than I definitely wasn’t into you.

I've been told that such bouncer lines as "Sorry, you're not on the list" or "It's a private party tonight" are typically bullsh*t excuses to just keep certain patrons out. True/untrue?

Asked by slimjimXX over 12 years ago

True. Sort of. I've used "Private party" to keep people out, but I've also worked many actual private parties.