New York, NY

Male, 33

I was a bouncer at one of the biggest sh-thole bars on the Upper East Side of Manhattan from 2005-2007. Ask me anything.

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Last Answer on July 30, 2013

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what is a bouncer's average size in height, weight and all ways in body size to costumers?

Asked by Marcos Regalado over 8 years ago


Did you get greased at the door a lot? Does management frown upon that or do they look the other way?

Asked by tada almost 10 years ago

If I knew I had to let in underaged kids I would sometimes make them pay me to get in. But for the most part I didn't let people 'grease' me. If you do that, then they've got something on you, they'll try to use that against you: "Hey, I gave you $50, why are you throwing me out?"; "Hey, you're my friend, this guy is giving me a hard time, why don't you throw him out?" You have to be 100% locked up (especially for someone my size). People are constantly trying to play power games with you -- taking money from them gives them an advantage.

Is there any kind of requirement to have something with hair

Asked by steve lo almost 9 years ago

First off, your question makes no sense. I'm assuming you're asking about some sort of requirement about the length of your hair? If so, there is no requirement - I worked with a couple of guys who had dreadlocks. The down side of having long hair is it makes it easier for someone to grab.

Ever hook up with any of your customers, OR one of the bartenders at your bar?

Asked by blizzzzard almost 10 years ago

All of the above. You can throw cocktail waitress on that list too. Never dated anyone, though. If you were into me because I was a bouncer than I definitely wasn’t into you.

I've been told that such bouncer lines as "Sorry, you're not on the list" or "It's a private party tonight" are typically bullsh*t excuses to just keep certain patrons out. True/untrue?

Asked by slimjimXX almost 10 years ago

True. Sort of. I've used "Private party" to keep people out, but I've also worked many actual private parties.

Do you have the legal authority to use physical force? Like, if a guy's causing a scene, can you physically force him out of the bar or would that open you up to assault charges?

Asked by sam almost 10 years ago

I don't know about legal authority. If a guy (or girl) is being a knuckle head, they're going out the door. If you're in the middle of the bar duking it out with them, then you're doing something wrong. It's not Roadhouse. If you leave physical marks on someone you open yourself up to assault charges. I've heard of bouncers getting charged with assault for punching someone. I've also heard of bouncers giving the side of someone's head a quick trip to the door jam on the way out and getting away with it.

I took a drink of something not knowing what it was and a bouncer saw me I was under age so he told me I had to leave as I was leaving he grabed me and pulled on my arm. Am I allowed to press charges

Asked by ash over 8 years ago

First of all, I don't believe a word of your story. "I accidentally picked up a drink that had alcohol in it. I had no idea! I'm just an innocent child in this big scary world! Whoa is me!"

Second of all, the bouncer probably wouldn't have had to grab you by the arm if you weren't acting like a jackass.

Third, based on your question I am confident that you are a jackass.

So, the answer is no, don't press charges.