Pick-Up Coach

Pick-Up Coach

Xander

Hollywood, CA

Male, 32

I was a practitioner of Pick-Up Arts, as taught through numerous books, classes, and online forums. Now I help legions of average, frustrated chumps learn how to interact with women and land the dates and relationships they've always wanted.

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Last Answer on July 12, 2013

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Dating in the workplace -- love it or hate it? I know it's an HR no-no, but it seems totally natural given how much time we spend with co-workers.

Asked by THEMichaelScott over 13 years ago

You know how they get pandas to mate? They just stick 'em in the same cage. We may eat Slim Jims instead of bamboo and reside in cubicles instead of cages but we Homo Sapiens aren't much different despite annual sexual harassment training. As long as you aren't breathing heavy on your assistant I say knock yourself out. Plus the forbidden aspect and the secret keeping are likely to amp up the sexual tension so enjoy. Just don't spill coffee on my TPS reports.

Have you ever worked with a guy you thought was utterly hopeless, and did you have much success?

Asked by Marty over 13 years ago

I've never had anyone I thought was hopeless but I know coaches who have. There is definitely a point where I can go no further as coach and a therapist has to pick up the baton. Like the proverbial onion, peoples' layers often take time to peel away and often reveal things that they didn't know were there. And like most things, you can lead a horse to water......

Cologne - yes or no?

Asked by Lucky4 over 13 years ago

I'm of an ethnicity known for wearing too much so I abstain completely but I think most guys can get away with a dash. It's hard not to envison cheesy meatheads putting on Acqua Di Gio before grinding at Pure in Vegas but some women have told me they like it so feel free to knock yourself out.

Are your clients just trying to bed tons of women, or is it less superficial than that?

Asked by JackFlash over 13 years ago

There are a small minority of chronic womanizers who are just trying to run up their numbers, but I'd say 95% of the guys that I coach want to have a little fun for a few years and settle down with a cool girlfriend. They just want to feel like they have some say in the matter.

If I'm at a bar talking to some chick and she mentions she has a boyfriend but continues to flirt with me, is it safe to assume there's still a chance to hook up?

Asked by fuggedaboutit over 13 years ago

Ha... this kind of makes me chuckle because it highlights a little bit of gender projection. When we guys talk to a girl (especially in a bar) it's because we want to hook up with her. Black and white; plain and simple. Doesn't work that way for girls. She gets most of what she wants (ego boost, feeling desired) from the flirtation itself. In psychology this is the concept of narcisstic supply. Or put another way as a study on female sexuality concluded, "For women, feeling desired is the orgasm." So while yes it is possbile you can still hook up and that she's just mentioning it so she feels like it's your fault when it happens ("I told him I have a boyfriend!"), it's much more likely that she's enjoying the flirtation and attention with no intention of actually acting on it. You're much better off moving on. This all assumes of course that she's telling the truth about having a boyfriend and not just blowing you off.... I hear that happens sometimes. :)

Why is Bed Bath & Beyond and good place to meet women? What's a good opening line in that kind of place?

Asked by subzer0 over 13 years ago

There are always attractive women there and perhaps there's something to the "nesting" aspect of the place. Lines are overrated. There's nothing wrong with "Hey I know this is a pretty random place to do this but I want to meet you. I'm Xander." If you want to get cute you could also ask "Hey do you know where they sell blankets in here?"

Is the mode one approach the best?

Asked by sexymofo about 12 years ago

Never heard of it