Relaxation Consultant

Relaxation Consultant

Manny Maven

Sunny Southern, CA

Male, 60

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Last Answer on December 18, 2013

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Does it gross you out when clients come in unshowered or straight from the gym?

Asked by Kyanks1 over 10 years ago

Hello, Kyanks1!

When you say unshowered, how long are we talking about? Days or weeks?  If we're just talking, like, a client showered the night before, then worked all day and then came in for massage, nah. Actually sometimes a client that wears too much cologne or perfume is harder to work with than a client that's been a go dog all day long.

I think the question behind your question is regarding a person's hygiene? Well, if you're stanky that's something else. Has it been more than 24 hours since you bathed? Sniff yer pits! Smelling gamey? Um, yeah, then that's an issue. 

Here's a relevant story: I once had a female client who was a little eccentric. She rescued stray dogs, never wore shoes and had poor personal hygiene. I suspect that she may have been a dog hoarder because her filthy feet always smelled like poop. I would always start the session with warm towels and baby wipes to clean them off. It was really challenging because I was repulsed by the smell but she was in fact a very sweet lady that I got along with.

As for clients coming straight from the gym? Honest, hard working, sweaty people are cool with me. I've performed sports massage for professional as well as amateur athletes during competitions, games races, meets or triathlons and when you work a sporting event, it's part of the job. However, sometimes an athlete will be so sweaty I am unable to get a good connection with the muscle and fascia because their skin is just too slippery to work effectively.  In cases like those, I'll simply towel them off and maybe apply some talcum powder to get a good grip. It depends on the massage modality that's being applied.

 

When you work at a massage clinic, what percent of the client fee goes to you, and how much to the clinic? Is it frowned upon to see if you can treat the client privately so you don't have to split the fee with the clinic (and client pays less too!)?

Asked by Bort1 over 10 years ago

I'll qualify that I have never worked for a "massage clinic" that offers massage and bodywork sessions for relaxation purposes.  I'll lump "day spa" in with this type of working environment even though they may provide more services like saunas, manicures/pedicures, body scrubs and facials.

However, I have worked in a clinical setting (i.e. chiropractors and doctors' offices) earlier in my career but that is different because it's a medical setting and there is an entirely different skill set required on top of massage training including the understanding of medical coding, SOAP documentation, etc.

My students report that at one time, massage therapists at massage clinics were hired as independent contractors and would have to provide their own linens, oils/lotions, music, room temperature control devices  and any other additional items for a cut that was 15% to 30% of what the spa charged.  The therapist got to keep the tips. The trend is for the lower end of the range these days due to a limp economy.

Nowadays it's more common that the bigger chain massage clinics hire a therapist as an employee instead of an independent contractor and pay them an average hourly rate of $18 with the pay range being anywhere from $12 to $20 depending on experience and training hours. I'm unclear if these employees were eligible for medical benefits due to the fact that they usually work part-time shifts. Now that the Affordable Care Act has gone into effect, I'm even more unclear how this plays out.

Another business model I've heard of is where the therapist rents out the room on a weekly or monthly basis like hair stylist rents a station. This is more typical in for an independent massage professional with their own, established client base.

And yes, most therapists in a massage clinic or spa are required to sign a non-compete agreement in which they agree not to treat the establishment's clients privately. I've been told, but cannot verify because I'm a masseuse and not a lawyer, that when it comes to the average massage therapist, non-compete agreements are just a blatant attempt to restrict free enterprise, and they won’t hold up in court.

Have you ever had a male client suggest something, uh...inappropriate?

Asked by Billy over 10 years ago

Oh, a good question and a great opportunity to educate the public! Thanks for asking, Billy.

I take great pains to market myself by using key phrases as a "therapeutic" and "non-sexual" massage therapist. It's on all my business literature including my business cards, brochures and marketing pamphlets, as well as on my website. And if you ever step into my studio, the first thing you'll notice is the wall of certificates that I hold in many different bodywork modalities for which I've trained.

But once, a long time client who was aware that I was a legitimate masseuse asked me at the end of his treatment if I would massage his you-know-what.

I was crestfallen and angry at the same time. I had worked with this guy for years. But I snapped into professional mode and said "I don't offer that type of service and I never have. You know that! So if you're seeking that kind of treatment, I recommend you check out the back of the L.A. Weekly." (This was before the paper had gone on-line and was proliferated with sexual massage ads in the back).

You see, Billy, while I don't personally provide a sexual service I'm pretty tolerant of the fact that there are sex-workers who do and there are certainly clients that seek out such services. I just wish they wouldn't call it "massage" because it really sullies the reputation of massage therapy as a profession. Most massage therapists spend hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars to be certified at the national or state level and it's just not right to call a sexual service a massage treatment because it’s not.

As a customer, please use common sense when reviewing an ad for massage services and try to read between the lines. If a massage therapist like me is using words like "non-sexual", "therapeutic", and "wholistic" and they provide a wholesome headshot then it's a good bet this is what you'll get.  If the ad reads "tantric", "sensual", "full body release" and the photo is even slightly suggestive, then well, you know what I'm saying? Caveat emptor!

 

So this is embarrassing, but i often get an erection while getting a massage, but it's not a sexual thing and I apologize to the masseuse, and she says it's OK but I think she thinks I'm creepy. Does that happen to a lot of guys?

Asked by Junior over 10 years ago

Occasionally male clients will gain an erection during a professional, non-sexual massage treatment. While they typically are embarrassed, I am never offended, because I realize this is a natural, physiological response to human touch. All certified massage therapists understand this as well as it is a topic that always comes up during training. As long as the client does not exhibit any lewd or unsavory behavior during or after the session, I just simply ignore it. Now, it can be an elephant in the room if there’s some major tent pole action going on, but I believe to ignore it is the only professional thing one can do. These clients came in for relaxation purposes or treatment for a sports injury so the last thing I want to do is make them feel ashamed or judged. I also think that "ignoring it" is probably the most common strategy for other trained professionals.

Have you ever been attracted to one of your clients, and what did you do about it (if anything:)?

Asked by Tara over 10 years ago

Yes, I have been attracted to some of my clients. I'm human. However, I wouldn't risk my income and professional relationship with a client to take it to a personal one. 

What keeps your motivations and ambitions up? Are you constantly learning about new techniques and trying to get better at what you do??

Asked by Karyn over 10 years ago

You nailed it, Karyn! Learning inspires me and I love to share my knowledge and experience by passing it along. 

The anatriptic arts is vast, wide and full of history in almost every culture around the world. Learning new modalities or studying ancient methods has always appealed to me.  It informs my work as a therapist and as an instructor.

One can plan an entire trip around learning a new or different technique and use it as a tax write off. However, if you're going to do that, be sure the hours or training is accredited. You'll want to submit your certification to your local governing board when you get back home in addition to saving those receipts for the tax man.

Another reason I stuck with it for as long as I have is that I truly enjoy connecting to people. I've witnessed the life stages of many of my clients. I've trained as a doula to help a client deliver her two children and I've also provided therapeutic touch to those who are at the end of life.

When I started in this profession, I wanted to make a positive difference in a person's day.  I could not have foreseen that as the years have gone on, these people have made a positive difference in my entire life. It has been honor and gift to be of service.

 

I have a lot of back pain, mostly as the result of stress and work fatigue (I sit in front of a screen all day).

What type of massage would be most beneficial for me?

Asked by CG over 10 years ago

Thanks for asking. I'm a bit concerned about how severe your back pain is and if it's simply due to a sedentary lifestyle (sitting in front of a screen all day), the stresses of the job (that you've indicated), or if you may have past accidents and/or injuries or repetitive motions that are compounding your current state of pain.  

Before you begin any massage treatment, it's important that your massage therapist receive information about your general health. This entails completing an in-take form indicating any health issues, your health history to include any accidents or injuries you've sustained as well as any medications you are currently taking. It may also include other questions about your lifestyle to get a sense of how you use your body in activities and how frequently you do so. For example, you mentioned you sit in front of screen all day but a good therapist will also want to know how long your commute is and how active you are. Like if you golf weekly, do yoga daily, hike yearly -- stuff like that.

A therapist will also want to know if you are under a doctor's care and if your primary health provider knows you are seeking massage treatments. Depending on your health condition, approval from your doctor may be required.

Now, assuming you're fit and have no major health concerns, the array of massage modalities is numerous. Depending on your preferences, you could enjoy a Swedish massage, a shiatsu treatment, a deep tissue session, a hot/cold stone massage, etc., etc. There are literally dozens of modalities featured on the website MassageTherapy.com and I invite you to check them out here: http://www.massagetherapy.com/glossary/index.php

If this truly is your first massage session, I recommend a Swedish massage treatment because it's exceptionally beneficial to relaxing the entire body.  I also feel that this is what mostly comes to mind when people think about getting a massage. It's the basic Western style of bodywork that most professional massage therapists learn before getting certified.

Now when I say basic, it's doesn't mean bare bones or common. A Swedish massage treatment is yummy and your muscles will melt like buttah!

 

Just what are the "knots" that masseurs work out made of? And is there any special technique, or would ANY rubbing of them eventually make them shrink?

Asked by Garrett over 10 years ago

The medical term for muscle knots is "myofacial trigger points" which are hyperirritable spots in the muscle caused by overuse, misuse, sedentariness, and/or moods such as stress or anxiety.

Trigger points are comprised of taut sections or "strands" of fiber within a muscle that fire into action. Those fibers fail to relax but harden into that knotty mass -- technically they build tone much like when you lift weights to build burley muscles -- that you can feel when you rub them. As such, trigger points are often tender if not painful.

In addition to massage therapy techniques, the application of hot and cold packs, electrical stimulation and ultrasound as well as the use of pain relievers and muscle relaxants are common methods to treat trigger points. These treatments focus on managing the condition rather than eliminating them. So yes, Garrett, the skilled application of massage therapy can help reduce knots.

Hi! I always thought I wanted to become an RMT, so can I ask: do you LIKE what you do? Is it fulfilling? Are there every any times when you wish you were doing something else?

Asked by Melissface over 10 years ago

I absolutely love what I do however I'll be honest, I am tapering off from it after 23 years because my hands ache more frequently and take longer to recover from giving treatments.

Because giving a massage is so labor intensive, statistically about 90% of massage therapists burn out and transition into something else after working in the field for three to five years so I've been really blessed to be in it for as long as I have.

The times when I find myself wishing I was doing something else are usually an indication that I'm working too much and I need to take a break. I can't sell wellness if I am not practicing it myself so self-care and receiving regular bodywork is the key -- at least for me.

 

Hello,

I am a male.

Why do massage therapists place an additional towel over the groin area ?

Also, is it normal/ethical to touch the nipple indiscriminately during a pectoral massage ?

Thanks for your time !

Asked by Dr. Strangelove over 10 years ago

An additional towel is usually placed over the groin for modesty purposes to avoid any "oopsies" when a therapist need to reposition the client's lower extremeties.  It's just an insurance policy.

I wouldn't say it's normal to brush and/or touch the nipple during a therapeutic massage at all. While the pectoralis muscles lie beneath the nipples it would be a mistake to confuse breast tissue with muscle tissue. The therapist may be demonstrating a lack of expertise, sloppy technique or worse: inappropriate touch.

I'm male and my male masseur tells me that it's easier for him if I'm completely naked, but that makes me a little uncomfortable. BUT I don't want to impede his work if the results (lower back) will truly be better. How much do boxers get in the way?

Asked by Jim76 over 10 years ago

Putting aside the erroneous notion that massage is a sexual service, let's be clear that it is a therapeutic one.  

With that in mind, the combination of a therapist's education of human anatomy, kinesiology and bodywork training, it can be more effective to treat a client who has stripped completely BUT WITH THE CAVEAT that the client is appropriately draped for modesty.  

Are you aware that the glutes (i.e. your butt) can contribute a great deal to low back pain? Yes, even buns of steel can cause this! So oftentimes the glutes will need to be assessed and treated along with the low back.

Boxers, briefs, panties, cycling shorts, et.al. do indeed inhibit a therapist's ability to make a complete and effective massage stroke especially when treating the low back. However, I always drape my clients so that their privates are covered therefore linens are arranged and often times tucked to achieve that. 

As a client, you should never have your ass hanging out (or anything else for that matter) when receiving a massage even if you are laying buck naked on the table. You should always be covered by a towel or sheet with only the part of the body that's being worked on exposed.

Of course, if you are really uncomfortable stripping completely down prior to your session whatever is easier for the therapist goes out the window. Your needs whether physical or emotional take precedent and must be respected. It is up to you to communicate your discomfort with your therapist as they are trained in massage and not mind reading.

Only after you have completely communicated your discomfort with getting naked for the session can your therapist make appropriate accommodations to respect your feelings and treat your low back.

 

I asked this Q in the PT Q&A, but want to ask you too: do you have any tricks for treating facet joint injuries? I have seen about a DOZEN professionals, and the only thing that gives me relief is massage, but then a few days later, it's tight again.

Asked by Dan over 10 years ago

I'm really sorry you're in pain, Dan. Facet joint inflammation due to trauma or progressive joint degeneration is tough, I understand that. However, I'm not a doctor therefore I can't diagnose or treat, give advice or offer "tips and tricks" for your issue within the scope of this Q&A but will advise you to talk this over with your primary care giver. I will say that hands-on treatments such as massage, specialized forms of soft-tissue mobilization and sometimes spinal manipulation provide relief from the pain and that is why they are prescribed. I wish I could offer more than that, but I'll defer to your doctor on this one.

Do clients ever have gross skin conditions that make you uncomfortable? If someone has an unexplained rash or wound, will you ask what it is before working on them?

Asked by Copperhead over 10 years ago

I'm pretty well trained on skin conditions and know what is contraindicated and what is not. Nothing's really grossed me out, but some things have me concerned about my client's wellbeing. In those cases I ask if they've seen a doctor. Surprisingly, I find a lot of women have issues with body shame due to razor stubble on their legs. It's really no big deal to me. Really.

As far as healing an injury, I've heard that studies have shown that massage actually does NOT have any proven long-term benefits, and that it's all just a short-term / comfort thing. Agree / disagree?

Asked by Ryb1 over 10 years ago

Good question and one that I'm respectfully not going to answer.

First of all, what is the definition of healing?

And what is considered a healing modality?

I don’t mean to be evasive, as I have personally had relief and recovery from a myriad of treatments appropriate to my ailment or injury.

Growing up I was raised on a religion that believes in healing through prayer and eschews any medical intervention whatsoever.

While as an adult I don't practice this religion, I have witnessed incidents where faith has greater healing powers than science. And I have also seen medical miracles based on science happen to those around me.

I am also grateful to have become a massage therapist despite breaking my arm when I was teenager because one parent fought to have me taken to the hospital to have the bone set.

But no amount of prayer or medicine was able to save this parent when they died from lung cancer despite the fact that the never smoked a day in their life.

And for the record, I don’t claim to be a healer. I am a licensed and certified massage therapist. I know that my dying parent and I both found meaning and succor through human touch as I held their hand when they passed.

In this instance, I don't give a damn about a "proven medical study". It has no merit in this life affirming experience. Maybe YOU should conduct your own study on the longterm benefits of human touch instead of passive-agressively trolling these boards. I'd be very interested in YOUR findings.

 

I have trouble with the sciatic nerve and the adductors. When my regular therapist is unavailable its hard to find therapists that work on those areas. What can I do as a client to make the therapist feel more comfortable and not neglect my needs ?

Asked by Dan the Cyclist over 10 years ago

Hi Dan the Cyclist,

When I first got certified, my boyfriend at the time was a cyclist, so I know your pain.

Just based on what you've said, it sounds like the other therapists at the place you go for services are not trained or qualified to address your needs.

Are you going to a relaxation massage or spa? Your best bet is to go to a sports clinic and work with a team that specializes in addressing athletic injuries.

Even better, get a prescription from your doctor and make your way to a physical therapist's office where a qualifed team of professionals can address your pain through a myriad of modalities in addition to massage therapy.

Do clients notice when your hands are particularly rough or calloused? What hand lotion would you recommend? (Mine are that way from weightlifting, but you probably know better than anyone!)

Asked by Terry over 10 years ago

No, clients have never noticed my hands being particularly rough. In the span of my massage career I did rock climbing for several years (but no longer) and never received a complaint about my hands being rough. Usually the feedback I got was that my hands were strong!

There are two types of touch receptors within the human body. One of them deals with touching sensation and the other with pain and temperatures. These receptors are not evenly distributed all over the body. The cerebral cortex is used to process the feeling of touch from the more innervated areas of the human body like the finger tips, lips, face and tongue. But the back and limbs typically don't sense callousness but rather sense the pressure used by massaging hands.

Hi, I'm wanting to get a tattoo on the back of my shoulder but am terrified of needles. What will the pain be like and how can I prepare myself for the needle?

Asked by Rochelle over 10 years ago

Hello. Sorry I can't help you on this one. I'm don't have a tatt and I'm not a tatt artist. I'm pretty sure you'll find one on these boards though. Good luck.

Do you want to learn other techniques like accupuncture?

Asked by ML over 10 years ago

While I'm not really interested in becoming an acupuncturist or an oriental medical doctor, I do learn other bodywork and massage techniques. It's worth mentioning that shiatsu, also known as acupressure, is a bodywork technique from which acupuncture is derived. That is to say it came first.

Do you ever get symptoms of carpal tunnel syndrome from all of the work you do with your hands? If so, how do you deal with it? I know what it's like to give massages, and I stopped doing it a while ago b/c it was making my hands hurt.

Asked by lisa over 10 years ago

I never had Carpal Tunnel, but I have exhibited repetitive strain injuries.  

In the beginning, like the first month, there was this pain due to giving massages that interfered with doing other tasks. For example: when I opened a door with a knob or turned the car steering wheel my wrists really hurt. I wore a brace and worked with the brace on. It made some of my clients uncomfortable to see that (understandably) but others didn't even notice.

Massage is like walking on your hands all day long. Do your feet hurt at the end of walking all day? Sure? Will your hands? Sure! 

As I started into my third decade of doing it, I just wasn't recovering as quickly as I did in the past and that's why I'm crossing over into another career using transferrable skills.

 

Do you find chatty clients annoying? Would you prefer to massage in silence, or do you enjoy some conversation?

Asked by J.J. over 10 years ago

I follow the client's lead. If they want to talk, they can talk. But I don't "chat" back unless they ask me a direct question. However a client wants to spend their time, is fine by me. I personally don't wanna talk to nobody when I'm getting a massage (sic).  That said, I once had a client who always wanted to have basketball turned on the television during his session. He would even stop his massage to look up at the screen to catch a play. Whatever!

 

Is pain tolerance something that can be improved? When I get deep tissue, I squirm as soon as the RMT gets semi-deep. Am I missing out on benefits by having her back off?

Asked by Sue C over 10 years ago

Wow. I don't know the answer if pain tolerance can be improved. You stumped me!

I will explain my approach though. 

In a deep tissue treatment I will work to the client's level of discomfort but never pass that level to the pain threshold.  If I were working with you and you were squirming that would be a clear sign to back off.

Also, semi-deep is really subjective as every body's sensitivities to pain is different and can change depending on different areas being worked on.

 

when you have knots in your lower body, are you able to work them out yourself? Or is it like tickling, where you can't really tickle yourself?

Asked by Diet.Schulz over 10 years ago

This may sound like a plug for a modality, but it really is true: when I have tension and knots and I'm unable to get a massage due to time constraints, I use the Yamuna Body Rolling system. Specifically for the low back, I follow the low back routine. This method is fabulous. In as little as 15 minutes I can at least do some exercises that target the area and achieve results that carry me throughout the day. Of course, as soon as I can book a session with a colleague, I'm in. Nothing beats hands, but YBR helps get me through to my next massage.

 

I get erection and sometimes ejaculate when my therapist is working on my inner thighs and groin area. I do not think or have feelings about my therapist nor do I act inappropriately. What would my therapist think? its embarassing

Asked by Ivan almost 10 years ago

 

Received a 1 hour Swedish massage. Noticed that therapist got an erection while I was on my stomach face down. He kept hitting my hand, while massaging my back that's how I could feel his erection. What are your thoughts?

Asked by Tammy over 6 years ago

 

For decades any attempt to massage the muscles along my spine makes me jump like being poked. What is this called? This happened before and after L2-S1 fusions and prior spondylolisthesis at L4-L5. Possible cause and treatment?

Asked by phlip over 8 years ago

 

I am a woman and I want to try my next massage undraped. Do I need to ask my MT to be undraped or can I just choose to not cover myself with the sheet? My MT is a male. Also am I allowed to ask for my glutes and chest to be massaged?

Asked by Kate over 8 years ago

 

Hi This is weird but I released sperm in a massage but she was fine about it and help me clean up. Is this normal?

Asked by Peter almost 9 years ago

 

To just "dumb it down" for lack of better wording... Is it clear to say trigger point therapy is the treatment of hyperirritable spots?

Asked by Shaw over 9 years ago

 

Well I want to be a masseuse but I don't know what are the courses I need to take .I want to get a certificate for this and save money to go to a university.

Asked by Amina almost 8 years ago

 

i have a massage on the 25th of october and its with a male if i dont want him treating me can i have a female instead cos i wouldnt feel comfortable with a male i dont want to sound awkward

Asked by lee over 9 years ago

 

When I'm massaging scar tissue on my forehead do I warm it up first and then cool it down

Asked by Stephen over 7 years ago

 

How long does it take to be a massage therapist and is it hard to get a job in this field if your only 20?

Asked by Amina almost 8 years ago

 

When entering the workplace did you experience any expectations you were not qualified for?

Asked by Paula almost 9 years ago

 

How do you maintain passion for your job overtime?

Asked by Paula almost 9 years ago

 

How is your time managed between clients?

Asked by Paula almost 9 years ago

 

What happens if I embarrassingly farted? And or got hard? A boner?

Asked by tyler about 9 years ago

 

My penis curves to the left and I was wondering if there was some sort of exercise or massage that I could implement. Is it as simple as getting more blood flow to the left side?. Nothing to do with peyronies disease. though

Asked by cm almost 9 years ago

 

I get weekly 90 minute massage and am erect for the better part of it, the harder I try not to the harder it gets. The therapist has not said anything but I feel like a pervert. Should I talk to her about it

Asked by Randy about 7 years ago

 

I forgot to mention I am 50+ and have started testosterone injections which my Dr. is still working out the dosage

Asked by Randy about 7 years ago

 

I'm sure you have been asked how often one should get a massage, and the answer vaguely is how often you can afford and what not, in this case(mine)....if I exercise daily and work a somewhat demanding physical job....how often should I get a massage

Asked by Brian over 8 years ago

 

I suffer from trigger points in my abdominals they stay active most of the time unless i get them released from my therapist....I was wondering if there was anything I can do besides stretching to release them on my own like a tennis ball maybe...

Asked by Jermaine Bickham almost 10 years ago

 

I ask my therapist all the time for a tip or two but he always says just stretch until I can see you again because you have to many organs and may be risky...I was wondering was he just telling me this to keep geting my money or is myofasical release

Asked by Jermaine Bickham almost 10 years ago

 

I am waunding what happens if i wet myself before a massage would the massage tharepist check my pants and put a nappy on me. And what if you dont have any nappies with you do they have baby wipes and sudo cream and nappies with them.

Asked by Aidan over 7 years ago

 

I had bladder cancer and lost my bladder. I now have an internal neo-bladder, but have leakage issues. When I last had a massage, I could not stop peeing. The therapist was very kind and understanding. Do clients normally pee during a massage ?

Asked by Chris over 9 years ago

 

i'm a massge therapist in philippines and i suffer from hydroclorosis...how can i prevent it when doing a massge to a client?

Asked by yane about 10 years ago

 

Hello
I've been interested in massage therapy since I was a kid... I was preparing for school when I had an accident myself, and had an emergency surgery with L4-5 cuadra equine syndrome. I'm worried about hurting my back if I become a rmt?

Asked by sandra over 9 years ago

 

I've had a couple bad massages where the issue wasn't pressure but technique. I simply did not like the way it felt at all. It was so hard to bear it, everything he did tickled, hurt, was uncomfortable... It was awful. There was no gracious way I could think of to get out. I didn't wanna hurt his feelings. So I asked the time, pretended I had an engagement I forgot about, and left half an hour early. The first time it happened I told the woman I didn't like it and asked if there was another massage therapist there. It was painfully awkward. What should I have done?

Asked by Nimaki over 8 years ago

 

I have a groin and perenium problem. My groin is always tight, it seems to be pulling on my hamstring, perenium and testicles. Is it ok for me to ask my massage therapist ive been seeing for 7 months to work these areas?

Asked by Big e over 6 years ago

 

I recently had a couple of massages. I think some extremely inappropriate behavior occurred on the part of the therapists. Can I send you a personal message describing what happened because I'm not sure it's suitable for everyone to see. Thx.

Asked by Holyfield about 10 years ago

 

How can I prevent getting a boner when giving massage to female ? :|

Asked by Phillip over 8 years ago

 

I am a church pianist and use the computer a lot at work. Last week was overtime. The last 2 days I have been sore in the right wrist (mouse hand) when I use it for practicing and other tasks. How do I remedy that, and are there stretches I can do

Asked by Cheryl almost 10 years ago

 

Can't believe no one's asked it yet, but is cracking your back bad for you? Why does it feel so good? Do you ever have clients request that you do the thing where you put all your weight on their back til it cracks?

Asked by Julie over 10 years ago

 

I'm sure therapists have temptations. Even though an ethical breach might/would get someone fired, how unheard of is it for a legitimate therapist with a clean record to have a moment of weakness and lose his/her objectivity with a client?

Asked by RyanC over 10 years ago

 

I am a 25 yr old female, during a shiatsu massage from a MT I started talking about my emotional traumas, he was very understanding, I booked a second massag and at the end he said I was beautiful. There was a chemistry, was his remark unappropriate?

Asked by Laetitia about 8 years ago

 

So I had a similar experience. I have not been to my local MT for over 4 months. So I came in to find the same therapist I would normally see. In the past she would always cover my whole body with a towel. She would get close to my genitals in the past and barley rub against it while massaging my inner thighs. I asked her long time ago if she wanted to finish me off. But she flat out said no and I stop seeing her after that and switched MTs. Now here's the weird part after 4 months I returned and she took care of me. When it came to flipping me on my back she completely threw out the towel and I was naked in front of her with a semi hard erection and my balls hanging very low. she would constantly go towards my inner thighs and start squeezing my balls and rubbing around it. Constantly over and over everytime she hit my thighs she would go deep and play with my shaved smooth balls. I don't know if she liked it or what cause she kept doing it. She never touched the shaft only grazed it. She witness how hard I was and kept saying I was sexy. She didn't finish me off and I kept wondering why she did this now?? Any thoughts?

Asked by alizzz almost 9 years ago

 

Hello.
I just became a Massage Therapist in Ct. I have two questions. What are the draping laws for CT as I haven't located them? Also, is it legal for a massage therapist to give a massage undressed or even nude if the client requests it?

Asked by Craig over 9 years ago

 

I'm a straight guy and was thinking about going into the massage business. I have this straight guy friend who let's me practice on him but I get an erection when doing it. Is this normal?

Asked by CM over 9 years ago

 

Is it normal for a male massage therapist to get an erection while massaging a client? It happened to me today but he didn't mention it and remained professional but I still felt a little uncomfortable. Thanks in advance.

Asked by Vi over 9 years ago

 

Is it normal for a massage therapist to not leave the room as you redress?The other day she stayed and did things.I had to go to work, so I got up to dress.She noticed and stayed talking to me as she stared at my exposed penis. ???? Was this normal?

Asked by Samuel over 5 years ago

 

Have you ever accidentally touched a client's genitals? My massage therapist last week was massaging my right leg while I was on my back.I was draped properly and her fingers brushed the head of my penis. Was this an accident? It only happened once.

Asked by Bob over 5 years ago

 

Will a massage therapist notice marks on my arms or pay no attention?

Asked by Jaden almost 9 years ago