Mark Manson, Postmasculine.com

Mark Manson, Postmasculine.com

Mark Manson

Medellin, AT

Male, 28

I am a professional blogger, internet entrepreneur, and world traveler. I've been to over 40 countries and am currently working on my second book about long-term travel and how to work/live abroad. On my blog I write about self development and creating a unique lifestyle for yourself. Feel free to ask me anything.

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Last Answer on October 05, 2012

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Were you an entrepreneur from the moment you stepped out of college, or did you work any regular jobs before "seeing the light?"

Asked by micah_88 almost 14 years ago

I worked in a bank for a short period of time, maybe 2-3 months before quitting. My entrepreneurialism was unplanned and a bit serendipitous. I wrote about it on my site here: http://postmasculine.com/kill-your-day-job

Hi Mark,
A beginners' mind question. First blog post? Yes, I need great content - but how does anyone know the post exists? Where to start? I like the "be a guest blogger" tip - but how do small spuds find one another to even begin?

Asked by Gemma almost 14 years ago

Hunt around the blog-o-sphere, for every blog you're aware of, there are probably 2000 you're not. Click on people's blog rolls then click on all of those people's blog rolls and so on. You'll eventually find dozens of relatable blogs to yours. But also, starting on forums and comments is an easier place to start.

I've noticed a snowball effect. The more I improve with women, the more entitled I feel and the more my overall lifestyle and mindset improves. Controlling that aspect of my life, I feel like I can control anything. Have you experienced this?

Asked by legendart almost 14 years ago

Yes. Improving with women can be a means for increasing your self-esteem, especially if it's an area you carried around a lot of emotional baggage. So yes, my quality of life and general confidence increased greatly when I became better with women. The bad news is that there's a limit to it. Everyone hits a point eventually where dating and sleeping with more/hotter women no longer affects their self-perception very much. At some point, any form of external validation stops fulfilling you. When this happens, you want to move your focus on to improving other areas of your life. Also, BE WARNED that men like us who regain a lot of our lost self-esteem through successful sexual and romantic relationships, we have a tendency to get hooked or even addicted to the validation that it brings. Don't become one of these men.

What's a piece of advice that you used to dole out regularly that you later realized was totally wrong?

Asked by anon almost 14 years ago

Ugh... good question. There are two that stand out: 1) I focused way too much of my dating advice on humor and coming across as cute and funny to women -- impressing them, really. Humor is nice and everything, but it's not the crux of attraction like I seemed to think for a while. Focusing on it so much also implies the idea that women must be impressed and entertained if they're going to like you, which is a terrible mindset to have. 2) That having sex with more women somehow changes you on a deep personal level, when in fact, sex is often shallow meaningless or even emotionally harmful. It's the same mistake most of the seduction industry makes, but I'm a little ashamed I bought into it so much wholeheartedly.

Do you make enough money on the blog alone to support yourself, or is the bulk of your income from ancillary products sold through the blog?

Asked by Dorian almost 14 years ago

Not sure what you mean. I have my own products and books that I sell through my blog. The blog itself makes very little money since I do little to no advertising. But yes, I have supported myself for about four years now.

Do you eventually want to settle down with one woman? Would it have to be a woman who's willing to country-hop with you indefinitely?

Asked by Sumeet almost 14 years ago

Yes, I do. And although she wouldn't need to be willing to country hop, she would have to be passionate about travel and different cultures.

Who are your mentors as of today?

Asked by chadwick almost 14 years ago

At the moment I don't really have any mentors, although I've had a few at various times in the past. These days, I'm more of looking at what the super-famous bloggers are doing (Tim Ferriss, Leo Babauta, etc.) and try to model or draw some sort of inspiration from them, since reaching that level seems to be the next step.